I try not to follow trends. I have seen fashion designers trying to create cool ponchos. I never bought those, however I saw friends wearing them and I love them.
My last trip to Argentina included to go through old pictures. I found this bad quality one of me, sitting on the floor wearing a poncho.
So i decided to visit stores that sell them. All those stores sell a lot of leather items, I turned my head not to see them. I was on a mission to find the best authentic cruelty free poncho for the fall season. And I did.
There are a lot of really good quality cruelty free shoes to buy online. We have the false belief that no leather shoes are low in quality. These high definition pictures show that you do not need to sacrifice your wallet or quality to look fabulous.
ASOS DREAMER SNEAKERS
LULU’S Daily Shuffle Black Perforated Slip-On Sneakers
Asos Sadie Heels $45. Perfect to go to work.
LULU’S Height on Time Black High Heel Booties $31
River Island Gusset Block Heeled Ankle Boots $68
LULU’S Platform-ation Tan Wedge Sandals $30
LULU’S Reservation for Two Fuchsia Nubuck Single Strap Heels $30. These pink sandals are a dream.
And don’t forget that:
I have been in dinners with vegetarian people in the past when I was not yet aware of what I was contributing to. I ate meat more than most of you. Remember, I grew up in Argentina, where a steak is an easy fix.
Six years ago, I found out about the horrific conditions of the factory farming, I read about it and still didn’t change. I printed a list that I found online of ten cruel practices going on in this world against animals. I started buying more vegetables, therefore decreased meat intake. But I did not stop there. Two years after I started following Peta in Facebook. I respect people who do not respect this organization; however it was my first step. So I am thankful. Then I watched Food, Inc and Earthlings and I was done. No more animal products for me.
But as you can see, it took me time. Therefore I conclude: Who am I to say how long has to take everybody else to make the connection? There are people that never will.
This was a process for me and for so many people. We all have our own timing to make changes in our lives. Before I criticize those who are still blindfolded I think about the time when I was blindfolded. Maybe the difference is that I never make fun of those fighting for a cause or doubt them. That is a total different subject of conversation.
We torture ourselves with the thought of How can’t you see what is going on? Well, I wasn’t seeing it a decade ago. I did not eat meat on purpose to hurt animals, neither are them. They are not aware. They are not rejoicing about animal cruelty on every bite they make.
We all have family members, friends that we love so much who we will keep in our lives no matter what they eat. I can’t love them less. It is like not loving me a decade ago.
Does it hurt me? Does it affect me? Of course it does. I would love to be on the same page. I struggle in social interactions. I keep my mouth shut many times. I do not judge. I do not feel that my opinion needs to be stated all the time.
I do not drink, I never liked the taste. My dad used to tell me that alcohol was good for me. I tried many times to drink, but one first sip is all I can do. Did I ever think that I should only be friends or relate to no drinking people? No, no and no. I love drinkers, eaters, republicans, democrats, liberals, conservationist, activists, blindfolded, happy, depressed, addicts, catholics, muslims, etc. I love people. They do not owe me anything. They do not owe me any explanation. They do what they want and it is their right, like it was mine before and it is now.
I have encountered certain people that instead of appreciating other people’s activism, they are the radar police; always focusing on finding flaws on people’s behavior. You find trolls online all the time, however it is not the same when those acting as trolls are supposed to be on your team.
Someone asked me yesterday if the faux leather I was wearing is produced under fair conditions. I do research the brands I buy from to make sure that they manufacture under fair conditions.
Many animal activists, who know how to cook, share their amazing dishes. They help me in this journey. It never crossed my mind to ask any food blogger if the quinoa, soy, tempeh have been produced under fair conditions, if they bought the ingredients in a chain grocery store or in the farmers market.
I consider that you can take care of one thing at the time. Let’s not try to bite off more than we can chew. We are doing our best to consider the fairness in everything we do. We are not perfect. Haters are going to hate.
The problem with this attitude is that it hurts the actual cause. We are trying to help animals. . What good does it do to punish somebody for not being perfect that is on your side? Why do activists need to explain themselves? Why does it feel like they need to apologize for not being perfect? It feels like if you are not 100%, you do not qualify, so go and buy fur.
Let’s stop attacking people that are not doing a lot, but doing a little. Let’s use our energy to lead by example, to be compassionate with all of us.
We have power as consumers. If a big fashion company like Zara starts noticing that more people are consuming faux-leather instead of real leather and they see that their inventory of cow leather has no demand, don’t you think they will adjust what they buy from their providers? We support a business. We boycott another. We send messages with our purchase choices.
Hopefully one day the world will not need activists. Hopefully we will all be on the same team saving the world.
Please share your thoughts about this topic with me. I look forward to reading and learning from other’s point of views
Before I started The Committed Cool I was following bloggers and thoroughly analyzing their posts.
I saw trends, so many of the successful bloggers were showing the same “IT” Item. The Chanel Lambskin Medium Boy Flap Bag, Celine Pebble Tote, the Balenciaga Boots, the Chloe Susanna Studded Boots just to name a few. These are beautifully designed but they are the opposite of what I want to show. The value of a blogger is on her style, on inspiring the audience. I do not want this to be about me showing you a piece that you saw and you will keep seeing and you will feel the itch to buy it because everybody is wearing it. I need to show you something that will inspire you and you will not find easily somewhere else – an original.
We all have old amazing pieces in our closets that we do not like anymore, right? It is like that song that you loved the first time you heard, but after it is being played so much, you “wore it out”. This is what happens to me. I see these items so much on so many people that I get tired of them. For some people, the more they see it, the more they want it.
Why do we wear what we wear? Why the need to flaunt designer brands? Why? Do we need validation as a person through brand display, through fashion? Maybe a little, maybe a lot. The sociology of fashion has always fascinated me. Through fashion we express who we are and what we want to project. Moreover, we express who we do not want to be.
Remember Samantha’s explanation in Sex and the City about the Birkin? “It is not so much the style, it is what carrying it means. When I am touring around town with that bag I know I made it”. I like Samantha, it is all about herself, she does not care what people think of her.
And then, this book comes out ‘How to be a Parisian” and it says something like: ‘Logos. You are not a billboard”
For those who do not like to flaunt logos, it gets difficult in the sneakers department. Converse, Adidas, Nike, etc.
An acquaintance told me that when she goes to Starbucks with her Louis Vuitton purse she always gets treated differently. I couldn’t believe it! My husband says she should find a guy barista as he will look at her style not her brands.
I researched a little and I found this video in YouTube of this woman who goes to the mall flaunting designer brands and filming with her phone. The result: all the employees were polite to her. Then she goes back wearing sweat pants, filming again with her phone and she almost got arrested. Check it out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TU0nh7awjPs
Are we dressing up to get the sales clerks to be nice to us? I understand their motive. Chances are that if I am wearing a luxury logo, I can afford to buy more of them, and at the end of the day it is a commission check. There is some discrimination going on here. What happens when I do not feel like dressing up but I am in the mood to use my credit card? So I go to the store, they treat me like a scene from Pretty Woman, I take it. But if the store clerk does not want to earn her commission from my purchase, I will go home and buy online. Is this the game we are playing?
It is human nature to reject the “ugly” and be attracted to the “pretty”. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, is it? We want the last cell phone, the fancy car, the luxury handbag because we need to belong, to fit in, to aim higher. In this circus called society, we all play a role. We care what other people think about us. We want to fit in wherever we are. We want to be respected, admired, and valued. Before we speak, they can see us, they can scrutinize us, and they can love us or hate us.
Let’s think different scenarios:
You are being interview for a job. What would the recruiter think about your “IT” Item? Will it get you closer to get the position or farther?
You are meeting your mother in law for the first time? Would she think you are high maintenance? Or that you are a great catch?
You meet your boyfriend’s friends for the first time. I can tell you this: they have no idea what are the “IT” items.
What is your motivation every morning when you get ready? Do you care about what your coworkers would think, they guy who works at Starbucks, your partner or just yourself? What do you think? Please share your thoughts with me in my comments section.